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November 2, 2018 at 12:29 am #10038
5’10”, about 300lbs. (Yes, I’m working on losing weight but I don’t mind spending a bit of $$ to look less schlubby in the meantime).
I usually wear black or khaki flat-front pants with a belt and a solid-color button-up shirt, sometimes with a matching/complementary tie. I do pretty well color-wise and often get compliments in that area.
But I never feel “put together,” mostly because of the typical fat-guy stuff: my pant sit too low, my gut droops over, and my shirt hems untuck and dangle out unless I’m constantly pulling up my pants and re-tucking. (I’ve used those [rubber “shirt stay” belts](https://www.amazon.com/Shirt-Tailor-Rubber-White-Improved/dp/B07257XTLF/ref=sr_1_18?ie=UTF8&qid=1539482891&sr=8-18&keywords=Shirt+Stays) and those [weird garter-looking suspenders that go around the thigh](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0797XX84X/ref=sspa_dk_detail_1?psc=1&pd_rd_i=B0797XX84X&pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_p=f52e26da-1287-4616-824b-efc564ff75a4&pf_rd_r=PYJFEVZAY58BRR7FRP9F&pd_rd_wg=1nkFt&pf_rd_s=desktop-dp-sims&pf_rd_t=40701&pd_rd_w=iuN9W&pf_rd_i=desktop-dp-sims&pd_rd_r=d3b3b682-cf55-11e8-a739-33eb8bfc8d81)). Both help, but they’re uncomfortable and inconvenient, and they don’t help *quite enough* to make up for the uncomfortenience.
* Polo shirts look bad on me (and I don’t like them anyway)
* T-shirts are too casual for everyday wear (I’m a teacher).
* Sweaters and fleece pullovers look OK on me if the proportions are right, but after a few washes they always get too clingy in the wrong places or too shapeless/droopy for my body shape.
* I usually prefer rich solid-color shirts rather than plaids and other patterns. (But I’d consider changing if the MFA gurus advise).
* **I look good in a suit (especially 3-piece) because it squares me off.** My proportions and jawline are such that I could *almost* pass for having a football (USA) player’s physique when I’m wearing a well-fitting suit. (At any rate, I look more like John-Goodman-in-a-suit than Chris-Farley-in-a-suit, if that makes any sense).
**So I’ve been thinking of buying a few blazers/sportcoats** in varying degrees of formality and just adding them to my usual outfit (slacks, solid-color button-up shirt). And once I’m wearing blazers, maybe I’d try switching from belts to suspenders to solve the tuck situation.
**But I’ve never been particularly fashionable so I don’t trust my instincts. Is this a good look for a fat guy? Any better ideas or variations on the theme?**
(I’ve also considered just going for the suspenders-with-no-jacket look, but I’m not sure I could pull it off. I don’t mind looking a bit dorky but I think I’m about 5 years too old to rock a hipster look without irony).November 2, 2018 at 12:29 am #10039
Not an expert but just my .02. A blazer is going to definitely improve your look if it’s well fitted. You definitely can’t go wrong with something like that as long as it won’t look out of place at your job (which it sounds like it won’t). I definitely wouldn’t go suspenders without a jacket. I’m not sure if that’s common advice or just me personally but that’s my opinion. Honestly though if you’re planning on losing weight I wouldn’t go out and buy a bunch of pieces to cover up what you’re eventually going to get rid of. I’m not sure where you are located but it’s either cold where you are or about to get cold. So maybe just pick up a few sweaters for now that make you feel comfortable temporarily until you lose the weight. Then work on expanding your wardrobe. No need to drop all the money now and have to buy it all over again when you lose. Definitely expand a little and pick up some pieces that make you feel confident in yourself but I wouldn’t advise a full revamp.November 2, 2018 at 12:29 am #10040
[This discussion](https://www.reddit.com/r/bigmenfashionadvice/comments/826xox/advice_needed_on_chinos_fit_check_how_high_to/?utm_source=reddit-android) from r/bigmenfashionadvice might interest you. Unfortunately the “over the gut” pictures were removed. You’ll have to size up a bunch but it’s definitely worth it.
I’m on the small end of chubby and wearing high rise pants means zero adjusting through the day. It creates a cleaner line and helps with proportions. Many athletic cut pants will fit your needs (more thigh room/higher rise).November 2, 2018 at 12:29 am #10041
I think the MFA consensus advice to big guys is not very helpful. These posts usually go “I’m weight X, but planning on losing it, and I have fashion question Y”. You then get advice on not solving fashion problem Y because you’re going to be losing weight, or being told to buy the cheapest thing possible that will pass until weight loss. Realistically most actually big guys go through quite a few weight swings, with the low ebb still being pretty big. Most big guys also know this about themselves, but wrote that they’re planning on losing weight in the initial post because the average MFA audience-member is a stick-thin 20 year old, and it’s the socially acceptable thing to say. Even if you do lose a bunch of weight, doing it in a sustainable and healthy way will probably take a couple of years, and you’re absolutely right to want to look good during that time. I have clothes that I like that fit me at a few different weights, and yes, there’s extra expense, and yes it’s a bit sad to grow / shrink out of an item I particularly like, but there’s a good chance I’ll get to wear it again in a few years. Sticking to classics that won’t look dated the next time around is helpful.
My take on the tucking issue is that it’s a problem best avoided all together. If you’re going to tuck then pants over the gut, suspenders, and a jacket is the best way to keep everything where it’s supposed to be. I spent years feeling like I needed a tucked shirt for work (also a teacher), and it just would not stay tucked no matter the tricks I tried. Teachers generally dress very casually at the college I teach at, and blazer and tie would be overkill for me, but if it fits for you, then classic menswear is perfect. Tailors and sales people in menswear shops are very used to helping big guys look their best. For me, getting more casual shirts and wearing them untucked was just a better look overall. As soon as it gets cold enough all sweaters all the time is my rule of thumb, but another type of casual layer (e.g. chore coat) works too.November 2, 2018 at 12:29 am #10042
I’m in much the same situation as you. I’m one inch shorter and have spent much of my adult life much heavier than you. I’ve been on a weight loss program and currently weight about 275 lbs. and am continuing my downward trend.
I’ll share with you what I’ve learned.
An extra layer, like a jacket can go a long way to making you look more put together. Blazers and sportcoats look great but can be a bit formal. Don’t shy away from more casual jackets in your size if you can find them. If weather permits, **chore jackets, field coats,** and **bombers** can be good, more casual solutions. Don’t sleep on **cardigans**, **sweater vests**, and **sweaters** as well. Layers do a great job of improving your general impression by breaking up your silhouette. I live in Texas where it’s over 90 F most of the year, making layers nearly impossible.
I like suspenders or braces and they work very well. They were traditionally considered underwear and therefore not to be seen by the opposite sex. But, that is an old rule. You can keep a jacket with you but don’t need to wear it all day if your activity prevents it. People generally understand if they see you taking your jacket off to sit at your desk but putting it back on when you get up. Or taking it off and rolling up your sleeves when some real work demands it. I used to teach a college course and I would lecture in a blazer/sportcoat and then take my jacket off when I wanted to encourage discussion with the students. I thought it was a good signal that things were getting less formal.
Button braces look more formal than suspenders with metal teeth and are less likely to come unsnapped. However, most often, you’ll need to take your pants to a tailor for alterations to get the brace buttons added.
Tailors can be great helps generally. Like how pants in my waist size can sometimes have too long an inseam, jackets that fit me well otherwise can have sleeves that are too long.November 2, 2018 at 12:29 am #10043
>Yes, I’m working on losing weight but I don’t mind spending a bit of $$ to look less schlubby in the meantime
Keep it up. It’s absolutely worth the effort to lose weight. I went from 250 lbs down to 180 lbs and had to buy new shirts and pants every ~30 pounds. Outerwear is a little more forgiving.November 2, 2018 at 12:29 am #10044
Not-small guy here (5’10”, 200). I totally relate on the trying to avoid the schlub thing. Skinny guy gets untucked and they just look casual. Big guy gets untucked and he’s a slob. One thing that really tidied me up is getting custom made shirts. I got mine through Luxire, it wasn’t cheap but nowhere near as expensive as I would have expected. And there’s other brands as well. Since I picked the measurements they were able to fix a lot of fit problems I have with shirts, specifically a collar that actually fits on a shirt without two yards or extra sleeve fabric. Easily the best looking and most comfortable shirt I’ve ever worn.
But the reason why I mention it to you is I also got the shirt two inches *longer* than usual. I’m not a tall guy by any means, but that extra length does wonders for keeping the shirt tucked no matter what. You get the stretch/pull you need to move around, but enough of the shirt stays below the belt so it stays tucked.November 2, 2018 at 12:29 am #10045
As far as shirts is concerned check out Lululemon’s polo shirts. They come in 2XL and they’re a stretch fabric. I started wearing them this year and now I have them in every colour and just rotate through them through the week. As far as pants are concerned, check out Athletic fits. Levi’s 541 is not just denim, they also make khakis out of a similar fabric.November 2, 2018 at 12:29 am #10046
Have you tried the shirt stays that connect to your socks?November 2, 2018 at 12:29 am #10047
One other poster alluded to this, but I’ll add: as a short guy with a gut, buying the “tall” version of clothes does wonders. I get XLT shirts instead of 2XL now and they both fit better and stay tucked in better. Explore that section of the store if you haven’t already.November 2, 2018 at 12:29 am #10048
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