I hang dry most of my clothes. Might also be a bit of a controversial opinion (and dependent on personal hygiene and also just natural levels of BO), but I can get away with wearing some shirts a few times before washing them if I don’t sweat in them. Not sure how will this will work for you in a small apartment though, because if I do plan on re-wearing a shirt without washing it, I’ll always hang it so it can air out a bit.
The brand you buy from matters to a certain degree. My H&M shirts always got holes within a year. Most of my other shirts have not had that kind of problem (even free Hanes t-shirts).
Lastly, consider encouraging embracing a more worn in look. Most clothing looks best slightly aged or faded imo. It’s like a testament to its quality and durability.